Rhiannon is 24, single and lives in Isleworth in South West London. She read English at Oxford university and is currently an actress, activist and works part time in an arts centre and picture framers.

I identify as a female first, although I was a massive tom boy as a child. I wouldn’t even go to the girls sections of clothes shops and people would ask me whether I was a boy or a girl and I enjoyed it. But now I am happy as identifying as a woman.
We can can all these theoretical conversations about masculinity and symbolism, but if someone likes being penetrated by an object that looks like a male phallus then they should be free to do it. .
You have to be really safe and know where boundaries are. But there is a power in trusting a person and submitting to them. I think there is a power in being a submissive [in sex]. The submissive is in control and sets those boundaries. ..The first time
I’ve experimented with bits of kink before, I definitely think that I am getting deeper in touch with my sexually the more I get in to it. ..I have loads of bruises here where I have been whacked by rope, it’s not that bad at all, it’s great!
When I had sex with a woman for the first time, it was like, ‘Oh this is what sex is supposed to be about! Fuck, this is amazing!’
There has been so many stories about straight men coming on to me in clubs and not accepting me as a lesbian they all blur in to one. ..When I say i’m a lesbian in clubs, there have been so many times straight men will just dance with me more and saying I
I’ve gotten to a point where I crave and am ready for intimacy right now. My last relationship ended quite badly over 2 years ago. It is good to have periods of your life where you are not thinking about other people’s needs and to think about myself.
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